Cabin porn.

I am so lucky to have been born into a family with a cabin.  Our property in British Columbia’s Gulf Islands is, without a doubt, my happy place.  Unfortunately, it’s not somewhere you can visit for an hour or two when the urge comes over you – it’s a small effort to get there, and visits in the winter months are rare.

On days like today when the sun shines in the city, I often imagine how great it would be to be able to transport myself to the cabin.  Until I figure out how to do that, I have Cabin Porn – a gorgeous website featuring cabins from all over the world.  If you know of better daydream fodder, you’ve got me beat.

A few favourites from the site:

This cabin at Lake Louise in Banff National Park

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This cozy cabin in Sweden, complete with an indoor hammock (genius!):

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And, closest to home, this tree cabin in British Columbia.

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one month to go… a bittersweet reflection

today marks one month until chris and i are married.  the closer august 24 gets, the more excited i am to have our family and friends in one room, the more excited i am to walk down the aisle (although tears are a sure thing at that point, i’d say), the more excited i am to become mrs. mcguire.  wedding planning has been true to its reputation so far – lots of exciting moments, some trying ones, and the classic dilemma of how big and lavish the wedding should be versus how much (or little) we want to spend on one day.  i think (hope) we have found a sweet spot there and that the day will be memorable and beautiful, and that our guests will have a great time.

the only thing about this wedding that invariably brings a lump to my throat is the fact that my dad won’t be there.  he died suddenly seven years ago, when i was twenty three, and i am still suffering from deep heartache in his absence.  whenever i am at a wedding and i watch a father walk his daughter down the aisle, that familiar lump in my throat returns.  not only will my father not be able to do me the same honour, but he never met my groom.  i have no doubt my dad would have loved chris, and i do expect he will be there in spirit, but i would give anything to spend even a few moments with him, let alone have him there beside me at such a pivotal moment in my life.

i haven’t decided how i want to honour him on our wedding day… my hope is that any thoughts of him can be more sweet than bitter on an otherwise joyous day, and that i am able to speak my carefully chosen words without crumbling.  but, for now, behind the safety of a computer screen and in the solitude of my home, i can say that the longer he is gone, the more admiration i have for him and the more i realise that the pain of his absence will never go away.  exceptionally intelligent, humble, resourceful, and inquisitive, my dad was as good as they get.  i am grateful beyond words for the time that i had with him, but also deeply disappointed to have had to learn life’s hardest lesson before i (or he) was ready.  i miss him every day, and august 24 will be no exception.

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a rose by any other name…

one of the biggest decisions i have had to make in preparing for married life is whether to keep my maiden name or become a “mrs”.  having been a “harrison” my whole life, and feeling such gratitude for what membership within that family has meant for me, it almost felt like a betrayal to consider becoming caitlin mcguire.

these days, it seems just as common for women to keep their maiden name as it is for them to change it.  other options have been adopted, too… i know of one couple that created a new last name to share after marriage.  sometimes the choice seems obvious – for example, my best friend’s maiden name is kool, and her husband’s last name is monkman. you can imagine that her decision to stay “kool” didn’t take long to make.

in my case, i think “mcguire” is on par with “harrison”.  my husband-to-be (i’ve yet to warm to fiance) was completely respectful, but he did tell me that, while i could do whatever i wished, his preference would be for me to take his last name.  i knew i would need to be darn sure i wanted to make the switch before giving him any hint that i was leaning towards doing so.  you can’t take a decision like that back without some hurt feelings.

after mulling it over quietly to myself for a few months, i came to a decision that felt very clear: i want to be mrs. mcguire.  partly, the decision is motivated by my interest in sparing future children from the curse of the hyphen.  mostly, i came to the conclusion based on my interest in demonstrating my love for and investment in christopher john mcguire, and my wholehearted desire to create a shared life with him.  in my mind, taking his name is one of the most powerful gestures i can make.

i’m aware that my approach could be seen as anti-feminist, but i would argue that naming conventions such as maiden vs. married names are as old as civilisation and exist for a reason.  at the end of the day, it’s a personal choice and i’m convinced there are no wrong options.  if, however, your maiden name is kool, that’s a no-brainer.

all-time favourite books

Last night, a friend was over and looking for a new book to read so I went to my bookcase in search of something she thought I might enjoy.  In the process, I came to reflect on my very favourite books.  I’m not sure I could come up with a truly comprehensive list, but it would undoubtedly include:

John Steinbeck’s “East of Eden” (and everything else he’s written).  

Steinbeck’s writing is some of the most humbling I’ve ever read in that his prose is so simple yet often stops me in my tracks.  His knack for describing human relationships, struggle, and mortality is second to none.  East of Eden is especially haunting (in the best possible way) thanks to its passionate description of California’s Salinas Valley, the inclusion of the most truly evil character I’ve ever read, and the multi-faceted story of two families intertwining throughout generations.  A truly epic novel.  

Other Steinbeck favourites: Travels with Charley, Grapes of Wrath, Of Mice and Men.

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John Kennedy Toole’s “A Confederacy of Dunces”

This book contains the most hilarious cast of characters of anything I’ve ever read, including one of modern fiction’s greatest: Ignatius J Reilly, who is revolting, delusional, sloth-like, and completely awesome.  

In a sad and ironic twist of fate, Toole tried desperately to get his book published, to no avail.  Not long afterwards, he ended his own life.  His mother discovered A Confederacy of Dunces after his death, and doggedly worked to find a publisher, eventually succeeding.  The book went on to win the Pulitzer prize.  Too bad Toole wasn’t around to see it happen, and to write something else as brilliant as a Confederacy of Dunces.

“In addition, I am at the moment writing a lengthy indictment against our century. When my brain begins to reel from my literary labors, I make an occasional cheese dip.”

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Ernest Hemingway’s “The Sun Also Rises”

This book is largely responsible for a trip I made to Europe several years ago.  When one of America’s greatest authors tells you the story of frivolous twenty-somethings cavorting in France and Spain, it only makes sense to try to replicate it.

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Davis Sedaris’ “Me Talk Pretty One Day”

I list this as my favourite David Sedaris book only because it was the first one of his that I read.  Everything this man cranks out is laugh-out-loud funny, yet often simultaneously sad and incredibly candid.  By far, one of my favourite writers alive today.

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John Banville’s “The Sea”

This book takes you to the coast of Ireland and describes it, and its characters, with unparalleled beauty.  While the subject matter is sad at times, the prose is absolutely gorgeous.

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Bill Bryson’s “A Short History of Nearly Everything”

The first non-fiction book on this list, this book’s title is apt: Bryson attempts (and largely succeeds) in describing our universe in the most accessible way – thanks to his incredible skill to distill mind-boggling concepts into something easily digestible, the reader is able to appreciate the scale of the Big Bang, the importance of thermophilic bacteria, and the complexity and time scale of hominid evolution.  Along the way, he also enlightens you to the scientists behind these momentous discoveries – most of whom were incredibly eccentric and fascinating in their own rights.

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John Irving’s “The World According to Garp”

After Ignatius J Reilly, Garp is one of my favourite characters.  His life story is sad, hilarious, and compelling all the way through.

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John Vaillant’s “The Golden Spruce” 

Maybe not one of my all-time favourites but worth mentioning as it’s a recent read that I really, really enjoyed: The Golden Spruce is set in my corner of the world (coastal British Columbia) and tells the true story of a revered spruce tree cut down in an act of “protest” by a man who disappeared into the wilderness after he had committed the crime.  In the process of leading up to this moment, Vaillant describes the recent (and very dynamic) story of British Columbia with the passion of a historian.  At the same time, he describes the natural beauty of the coast in some of the most lush, poetic detail I’ve ever read.  A gorgeous, enlightening read.

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I could go on, and on, and on listing good reads, but I’ll stop there.  

I’m always looking for my next book, so over to you: what have I missed?

 

garden plotting

in my last post, i forgot to voice my gratitude for one of my favourite places to spend time in downtown vancouver: my garden plot!  i don’t have a huge amount of space in which to grow things (maybe half the size of a parking stall?), but it’s incredible how much it can produce.  we are still eating purple and fingerling potatoes from last year’s harvest – there is something deeply satisfying about eating food that you grew yourself.

beyond the pleasure of getting my hands dirty and watching a garden grow, the sense of community that comes with being a member of a community garden is invaluable.  despite being one of the most densely populated areas in north america, downtown vancouver can feel isolating at times – people don’t tend to strike up conversation with strangers on a regular basis (unless, i’ve recently discovered, you have a dog!).  during my time at the garden, i have gotten to know an eclectic, generous, and gregarious group of neighbours who i never would have spoken to otherwise.

as the days begin to extend and snow drops push their way through the cold, dark vancouver soil, my anticipation of the growing season is building.  as much as i look forward to whatever i end up growing this year, i am equally excited to connect with my garden friends in the months ahead.

so far on my “to grow” list:

  • rhubarb.  lots of it.
  • potatoes, as i had such success with them last year.
  • artichokes, as an experiment.
  • sweet peas, because their scent and delicate beauty is second to none.
  • tomatoes, on my balcony – i’ve always had good luck with them, and it would kill me to come find them all stolen just as they became perfectly ripe (one of the perils of a community garden is that you have to take a zen-like approach to whatever you are growing, half-expecting that it could disappear at any time…).

my humble balcony garden:

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… and the community plot

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2012 gratitudes

Happy 2013!

I have all kinds of good feelings about the year ahead.  It’s been a relatively quiet break over the holidays – Chris and I got a new puppy (Charlie!) on December 21st, so we’ve been at home more than usual, getting the pup used to his new home and a new routine.

With a wealth of down time (what luxury!), I’ve had the chance to reflect on how immensely wonderful 2012 was.  So good, it brings a lump to my throat when I think about it.  So good, some of the best parts need to be shared, and recorded here (in no particular order):

The sweet, thoughtful, handsome, brilliant, and ever-endearing Chris McGuire asked me to marry him.  In a poppy field.  In southern France.  I said yes.

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I spent lots of time on Reid Island.  My family is *so* incredibly lucky to be able to go there, and I am forever, hugely grateful to my parents for having the courage, determination, and ingenuity to build an incredible cabin in one of the most beautiful places I’ve ever been.  The community of friends we have there are closer to family, and the beauty of the island continues to unfold every time I go back.  We also had amazing 60th birthday party for my mom on the island, and gave her the gift of a custom stained glass panel for the door of our new, beautiful little cabin, “the step-away”.

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I had a weekend in Tofino with my oldest, dearest friend, the beautiful Mari Kool.  She’s another version of “home” for me, and an absolute hero of mine.

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My younger brother, Thomas, married his longtime love, Carla.  These two are one of the most solid couples I’ve ever known, and the wedding was SO gorgeous.  I wrote them a limerick that I read at the wedding and, silly as it was, I barely made it through without crying.  I’m a total softie, it seems.

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I rode my bike a whole bunch.  I fell off at one point and broke my arm, but I’ll never regret a good ride.  The freedom that comes with those two wheels is one of life’s greatest and simplest pleasures as far as I’m concerned.  One of my favourite rides was a loop of Central Park with my friend and NYC tour guide, Caty (seen here, leading the way.  It was not a race.).

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My grandmother remains in good health at 92 years young, and is still one of my favourite people to spend time with.  Here we are toasting my 30th birthday (yes, that happened, this year, too!).

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It was a great year for visiting both new and familiar places – California, NYC, Portland, Halifax, Canada’s North (Yellowknife, Whitehorse), Scotland, France, Spain, Holland, England… an embarrassment of travel riches.

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As I’ve already mentioned, Charlie came into our lives in 2012.  A curious, intelligent Schnoodle (mini Schnauzer/mini Poodle cross) with a penchant for snuggles and ankle biting.  He’s still just 9 weeks at this point, so hopefully the former habit fades with time.  Either way, we’re in love.

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Other highlights that aren’t as conducive to photographic evidence:

  • I bought a wedding dress!  August 24, 2013… 🙂
  • Skinny dipping with Chris in a french river on a hot, gorgeous day.
  • Sleeping outside at the edge of Lake Cowichan.
  • Challenges and successes at work.  Still trying to find the perfect balance, but 2012 was another interesting, surprising, and full-of-growth year.  I’m regularly humbled by the projects and colleagues that I come into contact with.
  • Lots and lots of ocean swims – I managed dips in the Atlantic, Mediterranean, and Pacific in 2012.  Amazing.

Finally, and foremost, I am most grateful for the health of my family and friends.  May they (and you) continue in good form throughout 2013! xo

things that are awesome.

  • skinny dipping
  • the bottom part of a soft serve ice cream cone
  • riding my bike with no hands
  • leaving work at the end of the day and realising it’s beautiful outside
  • eating fresh strawberries that are warm from the sun
  • the wake pattern that my family’s boat cuts in the water
  • the smell of pine needles drying in the sun
  • when all of the things you need to buy at the grocery store are on sale
  • head scratches
  • bare tree branch silhouettes
  • walking through a sprinkler on a hot day
  • when someone calls you at the same time as you were planning on phoning them
  • the sound of the foil peeling off a yogurt container
  • falling asleep to a movie
  • hammocks
  • being the last car to get on the ferry
  • perfectly ripe avocados
  • breaking the top of creme brulee with your spoon
  • peeling a big strip of arbutus bark off the tree
  • losing your place in your book and then opening it to the right page on the first try
  • being buried in warm, clean laundry
  • impromptu dance parties

thinking outside the (gift) box

the older i get, the more i become like my parents.  my mom’s qualities usually materialize in the shape of a distaste for crumbs and an appreciation for life’s smaller joys (i refuse to let a rose go un-smelled), while my dad’s presence is within me most at this time of year.  dad passed away far earlier than any of us would expect, but when he was still with us, he often told the rest of my family that christmas had become too commercial and that we were accumulating way too much “stuff”.  as a teenage girl, this was the most preposterous message i had ever heard, but the farther i wade into the world of adulthood, the more i agree with my dad’s message.  ironically, it took his absence for us all to agree with his holiday minimalism.  this year i intend to carry my father’s torch.

later this month, my mother, brothers and i will be spending the holiday at our cabin on the west coast, where our good fortune includes a patch of forest, a rocky stretch of shoreline, and wonderfully eclectic, resourceful, and kind neighbours.  instead of spending the weeks leading up to the break scouring the malls, i’ll be challenging myself to come up with free (or very inexpensive) and heartfelt gifts for my family.